Important but unpopular developmental psychology fact:
Research demonstrates that corporal punishment only has ill psychological effects on children if the parent and child come from a culture that does not endorse corporal punishment.
There are major cultural and racial differences in how corporal punishment is viewed and the frequency with which it is used.
I’m not in favor of corporal punishment. I do not think it’s an ideal disciplinary strategy. Sometimes it is used to justify abuse. But I am disgusted by how judgmental fellow white, liberal people can be about members of other cultures using corporal punishment (when it is used appropriately, sparingly, and safely).
The cultural context is important. It makes all the difference in how the act is interpreted by both parent and child, and consequently, whether the act has any averse psychological impact. And unfortunately, many people are absolutist in their approach to child rearing; a technique or approach is either bad or good, with no exceptions. It’s just not that simple.
White middle-class people need to be careful not to demonize parents from other cultures who use some corporal punishment. Doing so is elitist, and reinforces tons of horrific stereotypes of people of color as savage, uneducated, and irresponsible parents.
Okay, white person, you need to sit the FUCK down right now.
Hitting your kid is never okay.
You do not fucking speak for us. You do not fucking understand the cultural context of racism just because you fucking went to college.
Citing “racial” differences as though it’s a real thing is fucking racist and ignorant as fuck. Sit the fuck down.
There is no such thing as an “ideal disciplinary strategy.” ”Discipline” is a code word for “justifiable abuse.” Parents are not police, they are supposed to be nurturers.
How dare you take your hang ups and use me and my people as a fucking platform to air your bullshit on. How dare you.
But more than that? How dare you imply that there is ever, ever, EVER an acceptable reason to hit a child.
IT IS NEVER OKAY TO HIT A CHILD.